Should I feel guilty about not helping helping my mom out financially?

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My mom earns about 25,000 per year from her job, and my dad recently stopped paying my mom child support (15,000 per year) because my twin brother and I recently turned 18 years old. I am putting myself through college right now, I am literally working almost every moment i'm not in class to keep my head above water. I've become pretty thrifty by staying on a very specific budget for food, rent, etc.. and keeping track of all my finances. Right now, I have almost $2,500 saved up, and my mom receives my bank statements in the mail back home so she knows this too. I truly believe my mom's spending habits haven't changed since my dad stopped paying her child support and she called me today talking about how she is so broke. I have trouble feeling sorry for her because she was never really a mother to me growing up, she is an alcoholic, and she does spend money on alcohol which should be going toward far more important things. I've basically been taking care of myself since I was 14 and could work legally. My mom never calls me when I'm in college to just say "Hi, how are you?" Whenevr she calls me, it's almost always complaining about something, usually about how broke she is. She really frustrates me because I know she could get a better job if she put effort into it, but she says "i don't like change", she's not the type of person to stick to a budget, and when she called me today, she didn't straight out ask me for money, but she did say, "So I see in your bank account statment you have $2,500 in your account, I only have $250.00 in my account, I'm REALLY broke." Geez, what the hell am I suppise to say to that? I'm a struggling college student with accumulating student loan debt and i'm just now barely beginning to build a little cushion in my bank account and she puts a guilt trip on me. Am I going to deal with this for the rest of my life?? I'm not going to give her money because she is the type of person who would NEVER pay you back if you loaned her money, and I have rent going through next week. I suppose I COULD give her like $100.00 or $200.00, but then what is she starts to get comfortable asking me for money? This is not the kind of relationship I want with my mom. Right now, I really just feel like I want nothing to do with her because she's not helping me in any sense, she's not supportive, she never really encouraged me to go to college in the first place, I put myself here so I can give my future kids a better life than I had one day. Should I feel guilty?

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